The Ivory Wedding Dress: A Scarlet Letter?
I’m glad that my fiancé and I decided on a small ceremony for our wedding this December. We get all the warm and fuzzy feelings that go along with getting married, and none of the stress that goes along with planning a big wedding. The entirety of our to-do list is:
1. Find a location for the ceremony.
2. Hire an officiant.
3. Choose a restaurant to enjoy a post-wedding lunch.
4. Buy a wedding dress (okay, so the last item is just on my to-do list).
We’ve checked the first two off the list, we’re still working on number three, and after weeks of indecision I finally bought a wedding dress. Since I wanted to spend under $200 on the dress, I didn’t bother visiting bridal salons and took my search directly to the Internet. The most difficult part of choosing a dress was buying it without being able to see it in person, and even after I chose the dress there was one lingering question: which color should I choose, white or ivory?
I thought a quick search of “white vs. ivory wedding dresses” would give me a good idea of which color would look better on me, but instead it led me into a universe where brides had to be reassured that choosing an ivory wedding dress was not equivalent to wearing a big scarlet A on their big day (The Scarlet Letter reference if you’ve read the novel… if you haven’t, just watch the movie Easy A).
I’m not amused by the idea of treating a wedding dress as a billboard about your sex life. First of all, it really is none of the wedding guests’ business. You would think your wedding is the one time when you can wear whatever you want without fear of criticism. And more importantly, we should be way past the point in time when a woman’s most important goal in life is protecting her “virtue” and making sure everyone knows how pure she is. As long as we are safe and responsible, our sex life shouldn’t even be on the list of noteworthy things about us. On my wedding day, I want the love between my husband-to-be and I to overshadow the color of my wedding dress.
After reading a few articles that were actually about how the different shades complement different skin tones, I chose ivory. I also changed the ribbon from white to lavender because the color just screamed “garden wedding” to me (yes, I am having an outdoor wedding in December, I already bought my oh-so-sexy thermal leggings to keep warm).
Do you think the color of a wedding dress matters? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
Written by Sully Moreno