Why I Don’t Date White Men

A few weeks ago, on my lunch­break at work, I posted up on a vacant stool at the dollar slice place down the street from my office and began munching on a garlic and red pepper­sprinkled cheese slice. A few bites … Read More

Will I Be Forever Alone?

I’m not sure I know how to love anymore.

That may be one of the strangest things I’ve come to realize since my separation. I mean, I know how to love my son, but how do I love another human … Read More

Breaking Up, Being Single, and Moving On

“I’m not happy anymore,” they finally say. You knew, but needed to hear it anyway. It’s a test: go on. Do it. See if you can hurt me. They do and it stings. Still, you’re an independent woman- you’ve taken … Read More

How Zachary Levi (Seriously) Made Me Question My Sexuality

So, here we are. I’ve announced to the world, through various outlets, that I am gay.

Now what?

Well, last night I had a dream. In this dream, I was an Executive Assistant to Zachary Levi (swoon!). I believe I … Read More

Accidental Polyamory: How I Found Myself in an Abusive 3 Person Relationship

I met Tina* when I was in the 7th grade. She was beautiful and fascinating, with a gentle voice and demeanor. She was a year older than me, and lived down the street from my house. We spent a lot … Read More

On a Scale From Virgin to Slut: Why My “Number” Doesn’t Matter

Like countless other women, I have always had conflicting feelings regarding my sexual history. For example, when I was in bed with my first partner, I didn’t want him to know that he was my first. After all, movies, my … Read More

Coming To Terms With Dating Women After Coming Out

When I was dating men (and I use the term “dating” loosely; very rarely were there ever any actual “dates”), it always felt slightly predatory to me. I always felt like I was on the prowl, trying to find … Read More

How to Talk With Your Loved Ones About Consent

No matter how safe we may feel, the danger of rape or sexual assault is a very real one. We need to be having discussions about consent — what it means, what it is, what it’s not — with the … Read More

Prescription Drugs and Domestic Violence: The Side Effects Are Real

If you’re a woman in the United States, between the ages of fifteen and forty-four, you’re more like to sustain injury from battering than from car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined. Of all assault victims seen in the emergency room … Read More

Treading the Dangerous Waters of Friends With Benefits

The idea of having casual sex with someone you like as a person, but don’t necessarily want to write sonnets for, isn’t new, but it’s as interesting as ever. Recently, Friends With Benefits starring Jackie from That 70’s Show and … Read More

Male Birth Control: Easy, Effective, Available, and Totally Unheard Of

The male birth control shot is cheap, effective, and administered in a relatively painless 15 minute outpatient procedure and has been in existence for 25 years. It is currently going into small sample human trials and should be available in … Read More

Emergency Contraception: Should You Ask Your Partner For Money on the Morning After?

If you’re a sexually active female (or you’re someone who knows a sexually active female), then you’ve probably found yourself in a situation involving emergency contraception. Perhaps it was for you, or maybe it was for a friend. And you … Read More