Mia and Me: How My Eating Disorder Became More Than a Teenage Phase

I was 14 the first time I purged.

I had already discovered that I could lose weight by restricting, but I couldn’t make myself fast. I would always give in and binge, leading to weight gain, the exact … Read More

Will I Be Forever Alone?

I’m not sure I know how to love anymore.

That may be one of the strangest things I’ve come to realize since my separation. I mean, I know how to love my son, but how do I love another human … Read More

Who Chooses If I Have a Baby: Me or the Patriarchy?

After almost a year of appointments with various medical specialists in an attempt to find a way to explain an ever increasing pelvic pain, I ended up being scheduled for a diagnostic laparoscopy. The surgery was ordered by the second … Read More

How Zachary Levi (Seriously) Made Me Question My Sexuality

So, here we are. I’ve announced to the world, through various outlets, that I am gay.

Now what?

Well, last night I had a dream. In this dream, I was an Executive Assistant to Zachary Levi (swoon!). I believe I … Read More

Accidental Polyamory: How I Found Myself in an Abusive 3 Person Relationship

I met Tina* when I was in the 7th grade. She was beautiful and fascinating, with a gentle voice and demeanor. She was a year older than me, and lived down the street from my house. We spent a lot … Read More

A Hard Pill to Swallow: Will I Be Medicated For the Rest of My Life?

I took my first anti-depressant at age 17. As a survivor of sexual abuse I was struggling to start my “new” life in Buffalo. My psychiatrist told me that I was suffering from post traumatic stress disorder and depression. My … Read More

Feminist Homeschooling: We’re Not All Right-Wing Religious Folks

I was all ready to finally sit down and write a blog about how I raise my daughter as a feminist, homeschooling, full-time work-at-home mom (that one always surprises people) and so many other roles I play. I was … Read More

Dear Diary: What I Wish Teenage Me Knew About Rape Culture

Trigger warning for descriptions of sexual assault.

Numerous aspects of sex and intimacy can be confusing for everyone, even in adulthood, but the emergence of these kinds of feelings in our teen years is weird, stressful, and oftentimes disturbing. … Read More

Coming To Terms With Dating Women After Coming Out

When I was dating men (and I use the term “dating” loosely; very rarely were there ever any actual “dates”), it always felt slightly predatory to me. I always felt like I was on the prowl, trying to find … Read More

Why Nude Modeling Shouldn’t Ruin My Life

Last week, I did a photo shoot with a very talented photographer/stylist couple. I’ve worked with them many times before, and I trust them completely. After we were finished shooting for the day, I spent some time discussing concepts that … Read More

On Coming Out of the (Feminist) Closet

How old were you when you knew?

Did you feel different from other kids? Did you try and keep it a secret? Did you tell some friends but not others? Did you tell your parents? What about your office? And … Read More

Why Equal Marriage Doesn’t Matter When You’re Fighting to Get By

For me, the beginning of spring represents change, rebirth, and transformation. It’s also a reminder that summer is to follow, and therefore New York City Gay Pride. This year, as more and more states are voting on the legalization of … Read More